If you read my last post, I promised to talk about ways to get your head on straight before you hop into bed with your partner because a clear mind leads to a relaxed body, yes?
Well, I don’t know about the rest of you guys out there, but my life is full of demands. Work, the endless pile of mail, my family, my friends, on and on. You get the point. So, at what time am I supposed to be doing me as the saying goes? When I get in bed and I'm still thinking about what I didn't finish doing or what I didn't get to? When I’m sitting in traffic and waiting for the light to change?
Up until a year ago, I felt harried and not in control of my schedule or of my life. Every time I turned around there was something to do, some area of my life (or somebody else’s) that needed my attention. I even went to a therapist, I was thinking the whole time I was there about the list of shit that I could’ve been doing instead of paying good money to complain to a stranger. And one day it hit me.
The answer is simple. All the time. I have to take care of me all the time.
So how do you do that when you’ve got kids, or an ailing momma? A job (or two) and a mental to-do list that just won’t turn off? You may come up with a few ideas of your own, but this is what has worked for me. If you like, you can try some or all of this for a few days and see if things change for you.
It takes a some practice and determination, but learning to go to bed with a clear mind, a peaceful soul and a willing body will lead to a wonderfully sensual sex life. And each morning you will wake with the joyous expectation of doing it all over again.
If you know of any other ways to maintain inner peace while your life is a whirling dervish, please chime in and share the wealth! I look forward to hearing from you.
Remember, take a little time to water your own garden